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All these rants about "love at first sight", tripping on thin air, etc remind me of a 4 year love affair that began that way. I was in college, taking my final class. I was about to meet this nice girl from Texas, sweet, gentle, but religious unfortunately. When I saw her trip out of the car and stagger over to say hello, bells rang, my heart rate went way up, and I started hearing the song "So Alive" by Love and Rockets in my ears. Wow. Love at first sight.
During the next few weeks we spent a lot of time together. She was, and is, very clumsy, like Taeko in AYA, and sweet like Aoi of the same anime, and just as determined. Being around her was really something and I fell more in love with her the more time I spent, to the point I started to avoid her so I wouldn't overload the senses. She managed to land a starring role in my memoir of that trip, which got forwarded around the world in about two days (I'm famous in Greece, Norway, and Australia because of that) before it got back to her. I was a bit shocked just how many people read it. She was suitably impressed, but not enough to marry me like I wanted.
We kept in touch for four years, writing letters, emails, friendship long distance as I worked here and she went to graduate school there. Eventually we drifted apart, she found someone else, married, had a kid. She works for an oil company now, in Houston. Sometimes I miss her and I still feel very tender towards her memories, imperfections and all. I know she didn't feel quite the same way towards me, but she admitted enjoying the attention and she did reply to my letters for four good years. Since then I moved on and will be married soon myself. I wouldn't mind seeing her again, just to smile and reminisce.
So yeah, falling into your arms? Happens. Love at first sight? Yep, that one too. It isn't always mutual though, and that's the sad thing. I learned a lot about emotions because of her, which is part of why I write the way I do.
During the next few weeks we spent a lot of time together. She was, and is, very clumsy, like Taeko in AYA, and sweet like Aoi of the same anime, and just as determined. Being around her was really something and I fell more in love with her the more time I spent, to the point I started to avoid her so I wouldn't overload the senses. She managed to land a starring role in my memoir of that trip, which got forwarded around the world in about two days (I'm famous in Greece, Norway, and Australia because of that) before it got back to her. I was a bit shocked just how many people read it. She was suitably impressed, but not enough to marry me like I wanted.
We kept in touch for four years, writing letters, emails, friendship long distance as I worked here and she went to graduate school there. Eventually we drifted apart, she found someone else, married, had a kid. She works for an oil company now, in Houston. Sometimes I miss her and I still feel very tender towards her memories, imperfections and all. I know she didn't feel quite the same way towards me, but she admitted enjoying the attention and she did reply to my letters for four good years. Since then I moved on and will be married soon myself. I wouldn't mind seeing her again, just to smile and reminisce.
So yeah, falling into your arms? Happens. Love at first sight? Yep, that one too. It isn't always mutual though, and that's the sad thing. I learned a lot about emotions because of her, which is part of why I write the way I do.
That's a very nice little story. Bullshit, but nice. What exactly did you love at first sight? At that point you didn't know anything about her except what she looked like.
I refuse to believe you can love someone without knowing them well, without knowing their personality, who they really are. You don't learn that sort of thing by catching someone when they trip.
What really happened is you felt a strong attraction towards her, and as you got to know her better you convinced yourself it was always love. I'm something of a romantic, and frankly, the idea of love at first sight cheapens the entire concept.
I refuse to believe you can love someone without knowing them well, without knowing their personality, who they really are. You don't learn that sort of thing by catching someone when they trip.
What really happened is you felt a strong attraction towards her, and as you got to know her better you convinced yourself it was always love. I'm something of a romantic, and frankly, the idea of love at first sight cheapens the entire concept.
Well, I've never been never been in love so I don't know whether love at first sight is real or not. Logically love at first sight doesn't make any sense, but since when can we measure love in a logical sense?
So all I can say is maybe it's true, maybe it's not. Only those who has experienced it know what love at the first sight is about.
So all I can say is maybe it's true, maybe it's not. Only those who has experienced it know what love at the first sight is about.
Love at first sight = chemistry.
It's just something you can't avoid, an attraction caused by pheromones. Why do some of the relations last more than a few days then? Most of the cases were such a relation survives is because there is no dept to it as the couple resumes to keep communications from a distance or because they get to know each other better and find different reasons to love each other.
It's just something you can't avoid, an attraction caused by pheromones. Why do some of the relations last more than a few days then? Most of the cases were such a relation survives is because there is no dept to it as the couple resumes to keep communications from a distance or because they get to know each other better and find different reasons to love each other.
I'm personally of the opinion that 'Love at First Sight' does exist. Human emotions are a fickle mistress, as we all know. Fact is, people change. What it is at first sight may fade in moments, or last for the rest of your life.
Human emotion all happens in the subconscious part of the brain, which can't really be mapped, so it is possible, I believe, that between some strange combination of mood, chemistry and thousands of other factors down there, you can fall in love at first sight. The ones that really last, though, are the ones where you don't notice it, or reject the notion, and the relationship develops on its own to fruition. Then, you may realize that it was, but do or not, it doesn't matter, because now it is.
Of course, this is coming from a guy that's never even had a date, or felt anything other than slight friendship for any girl, so I wouldn't trust me either. All I just said I based off of scientific fact, scientific theory, and my own observations of the people around me. It is my personal opinion in this regard that only a miniscule percentage of couples are actually in love, instead of simply believeing it because [sarcasm]Hallmark and God[/sarcasm] say it's required to propogate the species.
Human emotion all happens in the subconscious part of the brain, which can't really be mapped, so it is possible, I believe, that between some strange combination of mood, chemistry and thousands of other factors down there, you can fall in love at first sight. The ones that really last, though, are the ones where you don't notice it, or reject the notion, and the relationship develops on its own to fruition. Then, you may realize that it was, but do or not, it doesn't matter, because now it is.
Of course, this is coming from a guy that's never even had a date, or felt anything other than slight friendship for any girl, so I wouldn't trust me either. All I just said I based off of scientific fact, scientific theory, and my own observations of the people around me. It is my personal opinion in this regard that only a miniscule percentage of couples are actually in love, instead of simply believeing it because [sarcasm]Hallmark and God[/sarcasm] say it's required to propogate the species.
I hate to argue with all of you who say that love at first sight happens, but, like others have said, I firmly belive that it was just lust or other attraction. Love is like a friendship in that neither just pops out of thin air. They both develop. And the only thing that develops when someone claims they felt love at first sight was an erection at best.
Love, if you look at it is just a mild form of obsession. If there are good reasons for it and it isn't too severe love is a wonderous thing, like coffee and porn. Its just as possible to feel that obsession on first site. Its shitty reasoning, but whatever.
3:40 AM I really need sleep if I'm getting this cynical. I don't even like coffee.
3:40 AM I really need sleep if I'm getting this cynical. I don't even like coffee.