I have noticed there are many levels and approaches to Harem animes.
You've got the Tenchi Muyo style, where a pretty ordinary forgiving guy with a special power is surrounded by adoring space girls, who like the hottie from Matrix 1, fall in love with him for no reason. He never chooses one of the girls and they don't get impatient because they live thousands of years. Its beautiful and fun eye candy, and has some touching moments of romance. There are many many copycats of this exact shallow approach: Dual, El Hazard, Stellvia, Saber Marionette J, etc.
Then you've got Love Hina, which has far better characterization but mostly relies on long term development and slapstick, so while it's a bit more believable, it's still not real. Its anime so this is forgiven. And its well done slapstick too, which helps. Its great strength is grounding aspects of it on the fact that the hero isn't the person the story is really about. People think LH is about Keitaro, but its really about Naru and her doubts and insecurities. Grounding the main plot around their struggle to get into college, trying for years to do so, is something many fans appreciate since it's a reality for a lot of Japanese: balancing your dreams against the more mundane compromises that life often hands you.
Next you've got Ai Yori Aoshi, in which a sweet guy with a clouded past is loved by various women he was kind to, but is after one girl specifically. He can't tell the others due to political reasons but they start to suspect over time and love him more. I just finished reading a very good lemon from this series:
http://mediaminer.org/fanfic/view_st.php/79468
which has a sequel: http://mediaminer.org/fanfic/view_st.php/94318
The main conflict of the story is the character's right to marry his betrothed despite losing status in a family tragedy. This is a more believable story as it's really about arranged marriages, Japanese high society, love, obsession, and loneliness. It's a real family story in that respect, which is why, despite a harem of girls somewhat similar to LH, it's distinctly different and worthy. Btw, same voice director of the English dub as LH. Also, the story implies on several occasions that the couple do have sex, but they don't make a big deal of it to the others.
Finally we come to the story which is both slapstick yet utterly realistic in an emotional sense, His and Her Circumstances. The male lead in this story is even more tormented than Hanabishi-sama in AYA. The hero/protagonist is his middle class girlfriend, an obsessed glory hound who strives for attention by high achievement in everything she does. Her personal agonies and failings are the most true to life of any anime I've seen. He's kind of an emo boy kendo national champion A-student, but he draws a bishi and several girls into his orbit. It's particularly good because their relationship is rocky and is often undercut by doubts and fears of both parties. Real relationships are like that more often than not. Sex for this couple makes things more complicated, and raises even more doubts. In addition, the lead male is a violently jealous man in regards to his gf, which was a nice touch. Few cutesy animes would dare have something like that in a hero. The only downside to this anime is it sort of ends rather abruptly without resolution when the show was cancelled after 2.5 years.
We watch animes as entertainment, and write fan fiction to either compliment or contrast the original canon. Sometimes we write lemons to fill in the blanks or complete story arcs in the direction they were headed. Should Harem fics be realistic or should they be mere fantasy and enjoyed as such? What's your preference?
You've got the Tenchi Muyo style, where a pretty ordinary forgiving guy with a special power is surrounded by adoring space girls, who like the hottie from Matrix 1, fall in love with him for no reason. He never chooses one of the girls and they don't get impatient because they live thousands of years. Its beautiful and fun eye candy, and has some touching moments of romance. There are many many copycats of this exact shallow approach: Dual, El Hazard, Stellvia, Saber Marionette J, etc.
Then you've got Love Hina, which has far better characterization but mostly relies on long term development and slapstick, so while it's a bit more believable, it's still not real. Its anime so this is forgiven. And its well done slapstick too, which helps. Its great strength is grounding aspects of it on the fact that the hero isn't the person the story is really about. People think LH is about Keitaro, but its really about Naru and her doubts and insecurities. Grounding the main plot around their struggle to get into college, trying for years to do so, is something many fans appreciate since it's a reality for a lot of Japanese: balancing your dreams against the more mundane compromises that life often hands you.
Next you've got Ai Yori Aoshi, in which a sweet guy with a clouded past is loved by various women he was kind to, but is after one girl specifically. He can't tell the others due to political reasons but they start to suspect over time and love him more. I just finished reading a very good lemon from this series:
http://mediaminer.org/fanfic/view_st.php/79468
which has a sequel: http://mediaminer.org/fanfic/view_st.php/94318
The main conflict of the story is the character's right to marry his betrothed despite losing status in a family tragedy. This is a more believable story as it's really about arranged marriages, Japanese high society, love, obsession, and loneliness. It's a real family story in that respect, which is why, despite a harem of girls somewhat similar to LH, it's distinctly different and worthy. Btw, same voice director of the English dub as LH. Also, the story implies on several occasions that the couple do have sex, but they don't make a big deal of it to the others.
Finally we come to the story which is both slapstick yet utterly realistic in an emotional sense, His and Her Circumstances. The male lead in this story is even more tormented than Hanabishi-sama in AYA. The hero/protagonist is his middle class girlfriend, an obsessed glory hound who strives for attention by high achievement in everything she does. Her personal agonies and failings are the most true to life of any anime I've seen. He's kind of an emo boy kendo national champion A-student, but he draws a bishi and several girls into his orbit. It's particularly good because their relationship is rocky and is often undercut by doubts and fears of both parties. Real relationships are like that more often than not. Sex for this couple makes things more complicated, and raises even more doubts. In addition, the lead male is a violently jealous man in regards to his gf, which was a nice touch. Few cutesy animes would dare have something like that in a hero. The only downside to this anime is it sort of ends rather abruptly without resolution when the show was cancelled after 2.5 years.
We watch animes as entertainment, and write fan fiction to either compliment or contrast the original canon. Sometimes we write lemons to fill in the blanks or complete story arcs in the direction they were headed. Should Harem fics be realistic or should they be mere fantasy and enjoyed as such? What's your preference?